About How Are You Mom

How Are You Mom was born from two truths: caring for an aging parent is hard, and you don't have to do it alone.

The "how are you?" that started it all

I call my mom and ask, "How are you, mom?" Sometimes the answer is more complicated than I had expected.

It's a simple question, but now I'm discussing doctor's appointments, a bad night's sleep, sore legs, and I'm getting frustrated on the call because my mom isn't wearing her hearing aids. I worry about my mom and sometimes I feel guilty I'm not there more to help her.

I started these discussion groups a few years ago after discovering that many people I knew—work colleagues, college and high school classmates, even close friends—felt alone in caring for their parents. Speaking to others reduces isolation and, in turn, assuages stress, and that's why we created How Are You Mom.

—Steve Kong, Founder

"I discovered that even my closest friends didn't discuss the situations with their parents. Because dinner at a restaurant isn't really a place to bring it up. Everyone needs a place to put his or her parental concerns."

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Schools and organizations sponsor How Are You Mom for their alumni, employees or members. Tell your community about us, and we'll do the rest. We build the groups and run them.