About How Are You Mom

How Are You Mom was born from a simple truth: caring for an aging parent is very hard, and you shouldn't have to do it alone.

Stephen Kong with his mother.

The "how are you?" that started it all

It started with a phone call. The kind where you ask "How are you, mom?" and then realize the answer is more complicated than you expected.

Suddenly you're navigating doctors appointments, difficult conversations, and the guilt of never feeling like you're doing enough. Sound familiar?

We created How Are You Mom because we've been there. We know what it's like to lie awake at 3am wondering if you made the right decision. We know the loneliness of being surrounded by people who may not get it.

And we know how powerful it is to connect finally with people who do.

Stephen Kong

Founder & Facilitator

Stephen started How Are You Mom after his own experience caring for his mom. What began as a personal journey through the challenges of caregiving became a mission to help others feel less alone.

"I discovered that even my closest friends didn't discuss the situations with their parents. Because dinner at a restaurant isn't really a place to bring it up. Everyone needs a place to put his or her parental concerns, and it's a vocation for me to provide that place."

What We Believe

The principles that guide everything we do

Compassion First

Everyone's journey is different. We meet you where you are, without judgment.

Real Connection

Small groups, same people, real relationships. Not anonymous strangers — a community that knows your story.

Finding Lightness

Caregiving is heavy enough. We believe in finding moments of humor and joy, even in the hard stuff.

Ready to Find Your People?

Join a group of caregivers who get it. No judgment, just support.

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